Over the last ten years, I've worked extensively with parents and couples navigate the single biggest transition of their life.
Despite my extensive education and practice in psychotherapy, clinical social and child development- I still felt totally unprepared for the biggest shift in my own life.
The day I became a mother.
We all know how magical parenting can look from the outside. Instagram, TV, movies, even friends- they show you the loveliest moments. But what they don't show you is the sleepless nights, marital fights fuelled by exhaustion, financial anxiety and the crippling self doubt (to name a few) that literally appears from one day to the next.
Maybe you have all the support and love in the world but you still feel stressed, lost, grateful, loved, and totally confused about who you are now. Maybe you used to know exactly what you wanted out of your career, relationship, home, family- but since becoming a mother, you have no idea what you want anymore or what will make you feel fulfilled.
Maybe you feel guilty because you really wanted to be a mother, but you struggle with certain parts of the identity shift. Maybe it's hard to talk about openly with people because you've gotten a lot feedback that you should just be grateful. Maybe that makes it hard to admit that a lot of this is just confusing and new.
Yep, you can feel ALL those things and still be a great mother. You can feel totally freaked out and really fortunate all at the same time.
By providing tangible, evidenced based tools and exercises, I work with mother's to help the navigate their new identity as a parent, make decisions that feel really tough (did you know that studies show that Mom's have a harder time making choices?), and generally managing the rollercoaster that is parenting in the 21st century.
Some feelings will change overnight, some will take some time to tackle. We will reflect on the past, but we will also be goal oriented and proactive. You’ll feel safe, but you will also be held accountable for the things you want. We’ll have to go deep, but in doing so, you will see results that you truly love. Results that reflect the person you are and the life you deserve.
We always hear that in order to take care of others, we have to put our own oxygen mask on first.
It's time to put yours on.